Stop Erasing Yourself: How People-Pleasing Is Holding You Back in Love & Life

Here’s the thing: self-erasure doesn’t come crashing into your life like a wrecking ball. It doesn’t announce itself loudly or throw you off balance all at once. No, it sneaks in, slowly.

👀 Little by little, moment by moment, it takes root.

It’s that small voice in your head saying “sure, no problem” when every fiber of your being is screaming “hell no.” It’s you putting someone else’s needs before your own, just to avoid the awkwardness of conflict.

Does this sound familiar, queen?

🔥 Especially as ADHDers, we’ve been conditioned to believe we’re “too much” or “too intense.”

So, what do we do? We become people-pleasers. We adapt. We twist and turn, making ourselves smaller, quieter, and more “manageable” for everyone else. All in the name of fitting in.

But guess what? That’s not serving you.

It’s draining you. 😳

Every time you put your own needs on the back burner, you’re not just being “nice” or "accommodating." You’re chipping away at the very core of who you are.

And before you know it, you find yourself in relationships—romantic, friendships, even at work—where you're giving, bending, and molding yourself.

For what?

To be liked? To keep the peace?

The Real Truth About Self-Erasure

Here’s the harsh truth: those relationships aren’t honoring you. They’re erasing you. 💔

Self-erasure is when you give up who you truly are for the comfort of being accepted by someone else. It’s when your voice fades into the background, and the real you becomes unrecognizable—even to yourself.

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “Who am I, even in this relationship?” then this message is for you. 💡

We ADHD women know this feeling all too well. People-pleasing gives us the illusion of safety, but it’s a false sense of security. It might shield us from judgment or conflict in the short term, but in reality, it’s a slow death for your goals, your energy, and your full expression.

How Self-Erasure Affects Every Part of Your Life

When you erase yourself in love, you start erasing yourself in life.

That deep, soul-level desire to achieve success, to build relationships that light you up, to create impact—it all dims. Every part of your life gets smaller because you’re pouring your energy into keeping everyone else comfortable, rather than owning your truth.

But here’s the kicker: that’s not what you were meant for. 👑

You were meant for MORE.

You deserve relationships that don’t just accept your full neurospicy self—they CELEBRATE you. 🌶️

Ready to Stop Erasing Yourself?

Imagine this: showing up in your relationships without bending, without the self-sacrifice, and without shrinking yourself to make someone else more comfortable.

You’re allowed to take up space. You deserve to take up space.

It’s time to stop erasing yourself and start owning your power.

When you stop playing small, you’ll finally have the energy and the clarity to follow through on your goals. You’ll build relationships that aren’t based on keeping the peace but on true connection and mutual respect. And let’s be real, that’s the kind of relationship you deserve.

Let’s Create the Life You Deserve 💥

If you’re tired of molding yourself to fit into other people’s expectations, now’s the time to reclaim your power. Your journey to stop erasing yourself begins with one decision: to put yourself first.

I help ambitious women with ADHD stop playing small, get shit done, and build relationships that honor them.

No more bending. No more self-sacrifice. Just YOU showing up as your full badass self and following through on your goals. 🔥